The Psychic Counselor

Do you have questions about life changes? Emotional concerns? Relationship issues? Spiritual matters? Send your questions to The Psychic Counselor, Lynda Hilburn, and check back here for your answers. Or you can read through the previous posts (check the Archives) to find answers you didn't even have questions for! [*LyndaSoul isn't my name -- it's the combo of my first name with the first word in the name of my hypnotherapy training school.]

Tuesday, December 28, 2004

Emotionally Available?

Dear Lynda:
My move back to the East Coast has worked out for me with new employment and a small cottage on a river. I'm still in a state of transition, but my life has improved considerably since leaving Colorado.

Remember the big job I was trying to get opening a hotel in Manhattan? Well, the company contacted me and made me an offer to work full-time for them. I commute daily from Connecticut, which is grueling, but I'm living and breathing my work, learning lots, meeting new people and feeling alive again.

I met a man and we are slowly developing a friendship. He designed the public spaces on the big job in Manhattan then subsequently was hired by an architectural firm in the same building I work in. He moved and started working in Manhattan about the same time I did. I can't help but think he is the romantic relationship you saw in my energy field. But, at the rate he's moving, I'll be an old woman before he becomes more emotionally available. What do you think?
Celia, Connecticut

Dear Celia:
It's great to hear from you. I'm so happy that the move worked out so well. First let me say that it appears your career will continue to move in a prosperous and successful direction for the new year. An opportunity you don't know about yet will present itself, probably around the Spring Equinox, and things can get even better. I meditated about the guy thing for a while, because I know you're due for a wonderful relationship and I wanted to be sure before I said anything. Let me soften the blow by saying that it appears to me that the relationship I mentioned is actually on its way to you now, but you don't know him yet. The man you wrote about seems seriously entrenched in his fears, limitations and -- yes -- emotional unavailability. So, my advice is for you to enjoy the friendship with this man and keep your options open. I suspect you'll discover something/someone delicious around or before March. Hmmm. March is really a happening month for you this year. Utilize the powerful energy and take lots of steps toward all your dreams. Please keep me posted.

Tuesday, December 14, 2004

What's My True Calling?

Dear Lynda:
I am a 27-year-old female who was just laid off from my job working in an office. This was unexpected, but I was actually relieved in a way because I was bored with the work, the routine, and the environment itself. The hourly wage I was paid was low for a college graduate with a BA in Communication.

I have had several types of jobs since graduating in 2000; some in retail sales, bars and at offices. Most of my jobs don't last very long and then it's on to the next job that's just OK and doesn't pay very well. I know I should just be thankful for the opportunity to work, as there are many in other countries who aren't as lucky as we Americans. But, of course, I want to find my "calling" or true talent and don't know where to look.

For the past 4 years, I've been living with my boyfriend. In many ways he takes care of me financially. I love him dearly. He's my best friend. At times, I feel slightly dependent and think I should be more financially stable and independent. Many people say I'm not living up to my potential. What does the future hold for me and which direction do you feel I should/could head in?
Boulder, CO

Dear Nia:
Whether you look at it astrologically or psychologically, the years between ages 27-33 are intense, life-changing and deepening. You are on the verge of stepping into a transition that will literally change your life. As it should. This is the time to question the -- perhaps -- aimless floating that has occurred so far, to reassess previous decisions and to make a bold, new plan. Several things leaped out at me. First, it is likely there will be a geographic move in the next 4 years. I would suspect that this move is connected with career/school in some way, because it appears to me that you are not finished with higher education.

Dependence/independence is -- on one level -- a state of mind. Everything is perception. Does allowing your boyfriend to take care of you financially really bother you? Or would you be OK with it if no one had any opinions? I clearly got the sense that you are overly-affected by the approval/lack of approval of others. Well, here's a chuckle for you. I see abundant money in your possible future. What if I told you that you have the ability to create as much (or as little) money as you wish? What would be different?

Put all your concerns about the future on the shelf for now. Something about the realm of higher education will begin to tap on your shoulder and an entirely new -- currently unknown to you -- direction will emerge. I see no reason to be anything but excited and optimistic. Let me leave you with something Esther Hicks said when responding to a question about how an individual could find joy in having things when so many in the world have none: you can't get poor enough to make one other person richer; you can't get sick enough to make one other person healthier. Just a thought. That's quite a bit of guilt you're carrying. I wonder who gave it to you?